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Jan 06 2018

Everyday MUSINGS 4: ‘SHARE’ – It helps you GROW


It was a usual start of the day for me. I was getting ready to leave for work when my aunt told me that two of her nephews were coming over to meet me. I was little confused as I didn’t know them and didn’t know what they want with me.
Surprisingly, even my aunt didn’t have any clue. She just said, “They need your advice.”

Well, that sounded like fun.

I mean, no matter how much I try to be modest – it feels good when someone values your suggestions and seek them. On top of that – someone who is not even known to you. That gave me a shot of pride, momentarily and I agreed to wait for them, rather happily.

The kids came in a short while – two of them – were in their early 20’s. They greeted everyone in a very traditional way and looked for me (I could make out). They spotted me sitting on the other end of the room on a couch and came straight to me.

After a quick round of greetings and pleasantries – we came straight to business.

“You guys wanted to meet me?” I enquired, amusingly.

One of them responded affirmatively, nodding his head (the usual gesture for Yes).

“Tell me then, what’s the matter?” – I sounded even more amused.

That’s when they spilled the beans – they were in the last leg of their college and wanted advice on higher studies, especially on whether they should go for an MBA degree. It wasn’t surprised somehow as I was already assuming that it would be something to do with some career decision or maybe some suggestion on living in one of the cities I have lived in over the years of my work life.


“Ah! this one is pretty simple.” I thought as I was an MBA myself.

I started asking some basic questions about what they were studying currently and related stuff. It was a candid, to the point discussion – straight, objective responses to every question.

Then, I popped the next one – “Why do you want to be an MBA?”.


It was a moment of TRUTH!

No – Not for them, but for ME.

Sounds strange? Yes, it was.

The moment I shot that question at them, I realized that even I didn’t know the answer to that WHY when I got into the course a few years back. The kids gave me all sorts of responses, from the book – but amazingly even I would have said the same back then.

It was such an amazing moment.

Not only because of the above-said realization but because it sent me back a few years to fetch the RIGHT answer to the question.

I realized that since I had asked the question – I was expected to answer it too.

In just about a couple of minutes, the kids started staring at me with probing eyes – looking for an answer. I turned around and even the family was looking at me, amused, to hear it out from me.

Honestly, that was the quickest I had ever been at creating content out of the data in my head. I gathered all my experiences and learnings – put them together in a meaningful order and presented to them. I would skip putting up all that in this note as it wouldn’t be relevant but the kids looked intrigued.

For next half an hour – they kept on asking me all sorts of random questions related to career planning, job world, corporate politics, city life and what not – and I kept answering them, to their satisfaction.

As I was getting late for work, I insisted that we should continue the discussion later and gave them my phone number so that they can call me if they have more queries or need any more advice. They thanked me, went through the closing round of greetings around the house and left. I left for my office too in a couple of minutes after them leaving – with a strange but pleasant sense of accomplishment.



There was a bigger learning for me than the revelation about WHY I chose to be an MBA – it was that if I would not have met these kids, I would not have discovered so much about my self. Many things that I spoke that day – I wasn’t aware that I knew them already. It was a self-discovery moment, where I probed my own thoughts and came out with meaningful explanations – supported by real-life examples; and most of all – it made sense to the receiver.



Isn’t it such a great learning that more you SHARE with people, more you will explore your own personality and character? I am living by this rule since then and it has worked very well for me.


Do you agree with my learning? Share your story.



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SHARING: The more you GIVE – the more you GET

I have been thinking about this since ever as to why people are such misers when it comes to sharing something with others. It need not be money or tangible assets always, but immortal possessions like knowledge, love, care, concern, empathy – these all should be shared in abundance. Or is it that we have become so self-centered that these words do not ring any bell in our mind any more when we hear them!

I recall an incidence when I was talking to a couple of aspiring students who since hailed from country side, did not have any direction about which path to tread on in terms of higher education. I liked their enthusiasm and drive so much that I sat with them to discuss about the options that they could look at.

The discussion went on for almost half an hour and we all were completely into it, with me asking them questions ranging from their current school to their interest areas in general. They were very excited talking to me, answering all my queries; may be with a feeling that it might take them a bit closer to defining their careers.

In the meanwhile, one of my relative was watching us closely for past 30 mins and was not very comfortable (all I could read from his face). Suddenly he called for me saying he wanted to talk to me about something urgent. When I walked up to him, he said some very strange words to me. He said, ” I know you are knowledgeable, but why are you wasting your knowledge like that. This way anyone will walk up to you and you will end up talking to many people for that much of time”.

That didn’t go very well with me internally and I somehow started feeling sorry for the poor fellow. It was later that I realized that he was actually POOR – poor because he didn’t have the knowledge to be shared and most of all he did not have the empathy towards fellow humans.

This brings me to sharing more insight into the art of SHARING, which is also preached by many saints and spiritual leaders. These words to some extent do depict my personal view about CHARITY vs SHARING.

We always hear them preaching that if you have love, share it. WHATSOEVER you have, share it, spread it all over; let it spread like the fragrance of a flower going to the winds.

They talk about sharing – and with a totally different quality in it. If you have, you share. Not because by sharing you will be helping others, but by sharing you will be growing. The more you share, the more you grow.

And the more you share, the more you have  whatsoever it is. It is not only a question of money. If you have knowledge, share it. If you have meditation, share it! If you have love, share it. WHATSOEVER you have, share it, spread it all over; let it spread like the fragrance of a flower going to the winds. It has nothing to do particularly with poor people. Share with anybody that is available, and there are different types of poor people.

A rich man may be poor because he has never known any love. Share love with him. A poor man may have known love but has not known good food – share food with him. A rich man may have everything and has no understanding – share your understanding with him; he is also poor. There are a thousand and one types of poverty. Whatsoever you have, share it.

But remember, it does not mean that this is a virtue and God is going to give you a special place in heaven, that you will be specially treated. By sharing here now you will be happier. A hoarder is never a happy man. A hoarder is basically constipated. He goes on hoarding; he cannot relax; he cannot give. He goes on hoarding; whatsoever he gets, he simply hoards it. He never enjoys it, because even in enjoying it you have to share it – because all enjoyment is a sort of sharing.

Joy is always a sharing. Joy does not exist alone.

How can you be happy alone? Absolutely alone! Joy is a relationship. It is togetherness. In fact, even those people who have moved to the mountains and have lived an alone life, they also share with existence – not alone. They share with the stars and the mountains and the birds and the trees – they are not alone.

For twelve years Lord Mahavir was standing in the jungles alone – but he was not alone. The birds were coming and playing around, the animals would come and sit around, the trees would shower their flowers on him, the stars would come and the sun would rise. The day and the night, the summers and winters the whole year around; it was joy! Yes, he was away from human beings.. He had to be, because human beings had done so much damage to him that he needed to be away from them so that he could be healed. It was just to avoid human beings for a certain period so they didn’t go on damaging him.

freedigitalphotos.netFor all those years Lord Mahavir was silent – standing, sitting, with the rocks and the trees, but he was not alone – he was crowded by the whole existence. The whole existence was merging upon him. Then the day came when he was healed, his wounds cured, and now he knew nobody could harm him. He had gone beyond. No human being could hurt him anymore. He came back to relate to human beings, to SHARE the joy that he had attained there.

Lord Buddha went into the forest, but he came back. How can you go on being there when you HAVE it? You will have to come back and share it. They HAD to come back! to the world, to human beings, to share their joy, their bliss, their ecstasy.

‘Charity’ is not a good word. It is a very loaded word. In the word ‘charity’ there is some ugliness also: it seems that you are having the upper hand and the other is lower than you, that the other is a beggar; that you are helping the other, that he is in need. That is not good. To look at the other as if he is lower than you — you have and he has not — is not good; it is inhuman.

Sharing gives a totally different perspective. It is not a question of whether the other has it or not. The question is that you have got it too much – you have to share. When you give charity, you expect the other to thank you. When you share, you thank him that he allowed you to pour your energy – which was getting too much upon you, it was getting heavy. You feel grateful.

Sharing is out of your abundance.

Charity is for others’ poverty, Sharing is out of your richness. There is a qualitative difference.

So, its not about charity, but sharing.

Share! Whatsoever you have, share… and it will grow. That is a fundamental law: the more you give, the more you get. Never be a miser in giving.

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