Everyday MUSINGS 4: ‘SHARE’ – It helps you GROW
It was a usual start of the day for me. I was getting ready to leave for work when my aunt told me that two of her nephews were coming over to meet me. I was little confused as I didn’t know them and didn’t know what they want with me.
Surprisingly, even my aunt didn’t have any clue. She just said, “They need your advice.”
Well, that sounded like fun.
I mean, no matter how much I try to be modest – it feels good when someone values your suggestions and seek them. On top of that – someone who is not even known to you. That gave me a shot of pride, momentarily and I agreed to wait for them, rather happily.
The kids came in a short while – two of them – were in their early 20’s. They greeted everyone in a very traditional way and looked for me (I could make out). They spotted me sitting on the other end of the room on a couch and came straight to me.
After a quick round of greetings and pleasantries – we came straight to business.
“You guys wanted to meet me?” I enquired, amusingly.
One of them responded affirmatively, nodding his head (the usual gesture for Yes).
“Tell me then, what’s the matter?” – I sounded even more amused.
That’s when they spilled the beans – they were in the last leg of their college and wanted advice on higher studies, especially on whether they should go for an MBA degree. It wasn’t surprised somehow as I was already assuming that it would be something to do with some career decision or maybe some suggestion on living in one of the cities I have lived in over the years of my work life.
“Ah! this one is pretty simple.” I thought as I was an MBA myself.
I started asking some basic questions about what they were studying currently and related stuff. It was a candid, to the point discussion – straight, objective responses to every question.
Then, I popped the next one – “Why do you want to be an MBA?”.
It was a moment of TRUTH!
No – Not for them, but for ME.
Sounds strange? Yes, it was.
The moment I shot that question at them, I realized that even I didn’t know the answer to that WHY when I got into the course a few years back. The kids gave me all sorts of responses, from the book – but amazingly even I would have said the same back then.
It was such an amazing moment.
Not only because of the above-said realization but because it sent me back a few years to fetch the RIGHT answer to the question.
I realized that since I had asked the question – I was expected to answer it too.
In just about a couple of minutes, the kids started staring at me with probing eyes – looking for an answer. I turned around and even the family was looking at me, amused, to hear it out from me.
Honestly, that was the quickest I had ever been at creating content out of the data in my head. I gathered all my experiences and learnings – put them together in a meaningful order and presented to them. I would skip putting up all that in this note as it wouldn’t be relevant but the kids looked intrigued.
For next half an hour – they kept on asking me all sorts of random questions related to career planning, job world, corporate politics, city life and what not – and I kept answering them, to their satisfaction.
As I was getting late for work, I insisted that we should continue the discussion later and gave them my phone number so that they can call me if they have more queries or need any more advice. They thanked me, went through the closing round of greetings around the house and left. I left for my office too in a couple of minutes after them leaving – with a strange but pleasant sense of accomplishment.
There was a bigger learning for me than the revelation about WHY I chose to be an MBA – it was that if I would not have met these kids, I would not have discovered so much about my self. Many things that I spoke that day – I wasn’t aware that I knew them already. It was a self-discovery moment, where I probed my own thoughts and came out with meaningful explanations – supported by real-life examples; and most of all – it made sense to the receiver.
Isn’t it such a great learning that more you SHARE with people, more you will explore your own personality and character? I am living by this rule since then and it has worked very well for me.
Do you agree with my learning? Share your story.
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